Let’s get one thing out of the way—you're more ready to be a father than you think! After all, humans have been at it for a while. We’ve had a lot of practice! In other words, if you’re ever on the verge of debilitating insecurity, you can easily turn to a whole universe of advice based on other people’s experiences. Tips and tricks for new dads are just as abundant as guides for new moms. Here are some suggestions for making a great start at fatherhood.
If it all appears to be overwhelming (and it probably will), you can always fall back on a step-by-step approach. Take it easy, and don’t think beyond what you can accomplish right now. Assemble a list of newborn essentials that are necessary for a good start, so you can direct your attention to that little bundle of joy as soon as she arrives.
Diapers, onesies, wipes, medically approved pacifiers, quality covers, blankets, baby beds, and car seats are all things you can research and purchase before your baby is born. Each of them is a sort of life-hack tool that can make early parenting easier. And being prepared in advance can help you feel calmer and less stressed about the changes you'll be experiencing.
Once you have a child, compromise and change is inevitable. By their nature, newborns create an emotionally dynamic environment. Babies cry, poop, and demand your attention. You and your partner are probably going to argue. At times, things will feel out of your control. Talk to your partner about carving out some alone time...for each of you! Trade off on baby duty, and use your free hours to exercise, meditate, or do something that makes you feel good. Taking some "me" time will help with your mental health, stress level, and relationship.
Your first task when you get spare time from work and other obligations is to focus on building a relationship with your child. Have a hands-on approach—give them ample hugs and kisses to help them feel your presence in the most concrete way possible. It will be good for you and her.
Physical contact is so important (see above!)...and the benefits your child will reap are two-fold! For one, it aids psychological development through closeness.
Second, it encourages physical development. Tickling, games, and cuddling can help with stimulating muscle development. Before you know it, you’ll be teaching your child how to walk independently.
Finally, one of the pivotal tips for new dads is to show respect for moms. Develop and establish a positive rapport with your partner, and sit down with them to create a set of rules for communicating in front of your child. Yes, this pertains to newborns as well!
Your baby is a cognitive sponge during the first few years of their life, so it is of absolute importance to stand by mom and showcase a harmonious relationship...even if the two of you are not together. In the end, your baby's mental development will benefit.A newborn changes everything...in some of the best ways you can ever imagine! We'd love to hear your tips for adjusting to life with a baby. Share in the comments below!