January is right around the corner, and—let's be honest—you may have already broken some of your resolutions (if you’re one of the 45% of Americans who makes them). But now’s not the time to throw in the towel. Too often we make unrealistic goals, with the hope that we’ll achieve them (somehow!). And by setting ourselves up for defeat, we open the door to frustration and those icky feelings of not being capable. Sound familiar?
Here at Covered Goods®, we want 2019 to be your year. To help you get a jump start, we’ve set up a list of resolutions any mama can implement over the next 12 months. They’re easy to manage, and most involve a simple tweak in mindset. Best of all, they’ll help you live your best life.
Here are six resolutions we think every mom should adopt this January (and all year long).
How often do you catch yourself saying “yes” to every favor and project at work, home, and life? You’re not alone here! As women we’re conditioned to try and manage it all, and in the process we’re burning ourselves out. The truth is you can’t be everything to everyone, all the time (as much as you want to!). This year, before you commit to something extra, take a minute to really assess whether you have the time (and the bandwidth) to manage it. If it’s going to impact your relationships, your mindset, or your stress level, turn it down.
Piggybacking on the whole concept of “saying no”, 2018 is the year for accepting help. If you’re a new mom, take advantage of that aunt who is willing to hold the baby, or the friend who wants to deliver dinner. Tag team with fellow parents on school drop offs and pick ups, if possible. Drop your four year old off for a playdate and carve out an hour for yourself. People love helping others out for the simple reason that it feels good. And just remember—you will pay it forward (and pay it back!).
When’s the last time you really treated yourself? To a pedicure, nice hair cut, exercise class, relaxing bath, or even just an hour with a good book? If it’s been a while, that needs to change. The hardest job in the world is being a mother, and the second hardest is being a mother who takes care of herself. Map out some time, weekly, when you can spend an hour making time for you. Enlist your husband, a grandparent, or a babysitter to make it work (see resolution #2). The most valuable investment is one in yourself.
Kids didn’t eat a veggie today? Beds go unmade this morning? Or maybe it’s been a month since cleaning your bathroom. These things bother all of us—really. But there’s a time and place for getting things done, and one for letting things go. Sometimes, the pressure for perfection can be suffocating. Commit to moving beyond that, and living life in a way that makes you, and your family, happy (for the record, that sometimes involves cheerio crumbs on the floor).
Yes, yes—we know! You probably always feel like you’re with your kids. But how much of that is really engaged, present time? Commit to an hour playing legos, drawing, or working on a puzzle with your little ones. You’ll find that quality trumps quantity, and those few minutes will boost your relationship in a completely new (and very special) way.
This doesn’t need to be labor intensive! It can be as simple as complimenting that mom with the beautiful smile, thanking the grocery store clerk, or spending a moment chatting with the crossing guard. You get the idea. Instead of turning inward, commit to looking outward. Positive interactions feed your spirit, and in turn make you a better partner, friend, parent. And who isn’t looking for that in 2018.
Do you have anything to add? We’d love to hear what you’re working on in 2018. Let’s make this year one for us (and better than ever!).